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Abandon Me

Abandon Me


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In her memoir, Melissa Febos laid bare the intimate world of the professional dominatrix, turning an honest examination of her life into a lyrical study of power, desire, and fulfillment. She captures the intense bonds of love and the need for connection -- with family, lovers, and oneself. First, her birth father, who left her with only an inheritance of addiction and Native American blood, its meaning a mystery. As Febos tentatively reconnects, she sees how both these lineages manifest in her own life, marked by compulsion and an instinct for self-erasure. Meanwhile, she remains closely tied to the sea captain who raised her, his parenting ardent but intermittent as his work took him away for months at a time. Woven throughout is thestory of a long-distance love affair with a woman, marked equally by worship and withdrawal. Febos captures their mutual abandonment to passion and obsession -- and the terror and exhilaration of losing herself in another.
Publisher: New York, NY : Bloomsbury USA, 2017
Copyright Date: ©2017
ISBN: 9781632866578
Branch Call Number: 305.4092 F28a
Characteristics: 308 pages ; 22 cm


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Melissa Febos’s Abandon Me is arguably the most perfect breakup book. Though exploring her affair with a married woman, her tendency to abandon herself for a partner, her worry in turn that she will be abandoned, Febos learns that the thing she fears most — getting left — is actually part of what... Read More »

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